Enjoying Life: 4 Benefits to Adapting an Optimist’s Point of View
It’s a usual Friday morning except, this morning your boss asked to see you. As you prepare to take a seat your boss tells you “no need to sit, effective immediately you are no longer employed here.” After you have gotten over the initial shock and have taken time to process your termination from a company you loved and were proud to work for, what are your thoughts? In life, you are always faced with choices. You get to decide if you will have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life, or have an optimist’s view and create the life you desire.
4 benefits to adapting an optimist’s view:
- Optimists expect the best and have better reactions during transitions to new environments, such as sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles. Optimistic people focus on and plan for the ‘problem’ at hand. They use ‘positive reinterpretation.’ In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by a bad situation, they perceive it as a challenge and try harder. They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”
- People respond positively to optimists. They are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are often avoided. The optimistic person often wins elections; get promoted, and sought after for advice. When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher. Optimists typically maintain higher levels of personal well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding the problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.
- Optimists are healthier and live longer. Research has shown that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body’s ability to fight disease. Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical illnesses of middle age, and they often outlive those prone to negative thoughts. On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teenager’s disorder’ as well.
- The truth is optimists and pessimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way optimists explain their misfortune—it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case. Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with. Choose optimism.
Obstacles preventing you from getting your “Next”
What is the “next?”- The beauty of the “Next” is that you decide what yours is… a promotion, house, car, starting a business, writing a book, etc. Whatever your next is, the following mindset is most likely an enemy to getting there.
1. Fear of failure.
We all experience fear. The difference between those who accomplish what they desire and those who don’t is their response to fear. Accept the fear, no matter what it is (failure, rejection, what others say), and move forward in the midst of fear. Make a list of the worst thing that could happen if your fear came to past, then make a list of what you would do if it happened today. Once you acknowledge the fear and have a plan in place to buffer it, you will defeat fear, take the power out of it and it will no longer prevent you from getting to your next.
2. Seeking validation from others.
They don’t have it, so, stop seeking validation from your supervisor, and looking to them to get you to your next. Due to a lack of training and effective leadership skills most leaders are ill equipped to lead you to your next. Don’t expect them to give you what they are incapable of providing. The majority of most company mandated training’s are geared around increasing profits and revenue. You have to take ownership of your own development, which will often be found outside of your place of employment.
3. Trying to get your self-worth from your place of employment.
Don’t expect your self-worth and esteem to come from your place of employment. Companies are not built for, or equipped to build your self-worth. Their primary purpose is to be profitable. You will only be valuable to the degree they are profitable. Your self-worth can only be found within you.
4. Overly concerned about what others think.
Don’t allow what others think or say, to prevent you from moving to your next. Usually those that are critical of others are those that have not stepped out themselves, those who have, will congratulate you. Move beyond what others think. The most important opinion is yours.
5. Refusing to get out of your comfort zone.
You cannot get to your next if you don’t stretch yourself. Those who get to their next know “There is no growth in the comfort zone, and no comfort in the growth zone.”
6. Waiting for the perfect or the right time.
Start where you are, and do what you can with what you have. You can upgrade, modify and adjust as you go. Waiting for everything to be right is often a disguise of fear. Take whatever steps you can today toward your next.
7. Self-limiting thoughts and beliefs.
That’s the noise whispered in your mind (I’m not good enough, I’m too old, I need more credentials, I need more money etc). Replace those thoughts with affirming words and thoughts about yourself (I am well able and equipped and I have all the resources I need to start where I am, I can and I will, etc).
Laziness is least talked about, but is often the culprit for many. It is sometimes disguised under excuses.
9. Unwilling to Sacrifice.
Any amount of success requires sacrifice. The greater the success the greater the sacrifice. Sacrifice looks different for each person, ask yourself what do I need to sacrifice or give up to accomplish my goals (stop spending too much money, avoid watching too much TV, minimize going out too, need to study more, need to downsize, ect). Sacrifice is about choices and it goes hand in hand with discipline. What sacrifices are you willing to make to accomplish your goals?
What are you waiting for; it’s time to go to your “Next”